Monday, August 31, 2015

Standing in a high place.

I have a theory that If we stand in a high place, those who come against us will have an uphill battle to fight. If we take on one soldier (one problem) at a time, we can win the battle.
Life has a way of hitting us, but we forget that we can hit back. At least, I do. I forget a lot. I let myself believe that I'm not as strong, smart, or able enough. I think some people stay there, believing that forever. That, my friend, is called defeat. They live in defeat. Which is no way to live at all.

The battle. Simply put, life. We don't always get to choose the battles but we CAN choose to fight or to cower. Last time I checked, cowering was looked down upon.

The high place. Your mountain. What do you believe in with all your heart? What do you stand for? Living is standing up. Standing up for what we believe in. Standing up to those who don't believe in us. Standing up for those who make us believe in ourselves. Find your high ground and fight.

"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." - Winston Churchill

The army. I seem to let myself get overwhelmed with all the problems I face. Instead of dealing with them one at a time, I try to handle them (the whole army) all at once. I end up not handling any of them properly. Take it one problem (soldier) at a time. Make sure they are good and dead. You want them to stay down. If not, they keep coming at you...angrier.

The victory. A small victory is still a victory. You didn't eat the whole candy bar? VICTORY! You deserve a candy bar for that...wait, no. There's always tomorrow.

Also, I like having this guy on my side...
~Exodus 14:14 "The Lord will fight for you, you need only be still."

Monday, August 24, 2015

Being happy on your own.

We're always talking about being happy in a relationship. The truth is, you will never be happy in a relationship unless you are happy on your own. We depend on others so much for our happiness and when they don't make us happy, we blame them for our unhappiness.
It's just a way of putting the responsibility on someone other than yourself. People will always let you down. We are responsible for our own happiness. Other people can definitely add or take away. In the end, we must take care of ourselves, protect our heart, and protect the things that make us happy. 

Don't depend on the next person, job, or opportunity. Find what brings you pure joy. Be happy being on your own and be your own best friend. If you have that all on your own, imagine the incredible joy you will feel when you find someone who adds to that. When others see that you can manage and be satisfied without depending on someone else, they will respect that and respect you more as a person.

All relationships you have will reflect your inner feelings. If you are sad and lonely, a new relationship will not change that. The excitement and newness will eventually wear off and you will still be you and you will still feel the same. We need to be focusing on having a healthy mind.
If we can't accept who we are, we will turn ourselves into something we are not, and that is what others will know. If they know and love the person you have created and don't really know who you are, how can they really love you? Love yourself. Accept who you are. If you need to make changes, make them. Grow yourself and move forward with confidence.

"I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become." -Carl Jung

"Be joyful in hope. Be patient in affliction. Be faithful in prayer."- Romans 12:12

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Low Expectations. Being grateful. Loneliness.

Haiii everyone!
A few things have been on my mind lately. I'm not sure how many of you actually read my posts all the to the end, so maybe this is just to get my thoughts off my chest. I hope that someone out there reads this and sees something that helps. If not, at least I got it out there.

Low expectations. 
Sometimes this is looked at as a negative thing, and it definitely can be. I think if you find the balance, it can be very useful. What I mean is, sometimes we expect so much from ourselves, others, God, our life. When these expectations aren't met, we are let down and feel cheated. Lately, I've been trying not to expect, but to be grateful when something unexpectedly good happens. When you have too high expectations, you WILL be let down A LOT. So, just stop expecting everyone to do the right thing. To say the right things at the right time. To be perfect. We are human. We make mistakes. We let people down and they let us down. Try to see the good things when they come and see the bad things as something you will look back on and realize that they made you stronger. I'm not saying don't expect, because we should to some extent. That's what pushes us to be more. But lower them just a bit and ease your burden.

Seeing ourselves differently.
My life the past few years have been...hard. Very hard. I've dealt with things that I never thought I would. Loss, heartache, anger. I think I became angry with God because I expected Him to give me a perfect life because I loved Him or because I believed in Him. And when things went wrong, I wanted someone to blame. God doesn't give us an easy journey. Who can grow when everything is perfect? How can we learn if we never have the experiences? WE CAN'T. I had to learn to simply trust Him and let it all go. Which is really tough if you like to always be in control. He knows what we are feeling, He knows when we are awake, thinking about our mistakes and wondering if we are too broken to be fixed. He loves us completely. I think sometimes we think He sees us as we see ourselves, when we should instead see ourselves as He sees us. Someone worth giving life for. Someone worth giving life to. Don't look at your mistakes, but look at what you have learned from them. Our growth does not come from what we did or where we end up, but those little moments in between. It's all very beautiful if you choose to see it that way.

Say what you really mean.
Too often we try to keep from hurting others. So much that we can actually prolong the heartache by not being truthful. If someone has done something that hurt you, then tell them exactly what it was and why it hurt. We all walk around with these masks pretending that everything is perfect and pretending to be something that we are not. If you like something, say you do. If you don't say you don't! You don't have to be heartless and brutal but you do have to say it. No matter what, it will come out. Take care of the issue while it's fresh. Don't let it fester and grow into something it's not.

It feels differently for everyone I think. Some people act out, some keep to themselves, some chase, some hide. But we all feel lonely at times. I saw something the other day that really hit me. "If you are feeling lonely, you are in great need of finding yourself."
I think this is so true! We feel lonely because why? We feel that we are missing something. And sometimes it's a person, a friend you haven't seen in a while or someone special that is away. But the deepest, most painful feeling of loneliness is something more. When we are feeling alone, we need to spend time doing things that make us feel whole. Prayer, visiting someone who is going through a hard time, doing good for someone who needs it. The things that really make you smile or laugh so hard you can't catch your breath. Also, try to remember that you are never alone. Never. Even if you feel so lost, you're never too lost to be found. And sometimes we wait to be rescued when we can be our own hero and rescue our self.

Just take a step back and look at everything around you. If it is benefiting your life in a positive way, be grateful and encourage those things to continue. If it is something hurting you or a negative influence, GET RID OF IT. You can always do that, you always have a choice. If it is something out of your control, trust Him and let it go. *Sings let it go in a quiet whisper to self*

Everything heals with time. This is part of your journey. Count your blessings.
If you read this to the very end, thank you. I hope it helped<3

Monday, March 30, 2015

Spring cleaning your life

Spring, to me, represents starting over fresh and new. New beginnings and opportunities to make changes and grow yourself.

Start with your home. Clean out the refrigerator, sweep under the couch, windex your windows. Make your home welcome and peaceful. Home is a place to relax and feel comfortable. Buy some fresh smelling candles and replace the old dish towels with new ones.

Make-up and skincare. I tend to collect make-up and skincare products like they will save me when the world is ending. It's a problem and I'm working through it. Clean out old make-up! Make-up DOES spoil and can become toxic to your skin. Replace your make-up/skincare products with organic and natural products. Your skin NEEDS this, it's not optional and it doesn't make you a hippie just because you want to have natural products.

Diet and nutrition. Yes, it's Spring, which means summer is right around the corner. Not only do you want to look good, you want to FEEL great. Try a detox juice cleanse for a couple days to jump start your new health journey. Instead of all the sugary and carb-packed foods, reach for fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins like fish, chicken, and turkey. If people make fun of you for being a health nut, it's only because they wish they were you. At least that's what we'll tell ourselves. #TEAMFRUIT

GO OUTSIDE. I know, I know. Outside? What is it? I haven't seen it in so long. Now that the weather is like the breath of angels that look like Brad Pitt, you can actually step foot outside and enjoy it. Instead of watching a movie and sitting on your butt, go for a walk with a friend! This has never dissapointed. Like ever.

Relationships. Sometimes we have those toxic friends. You know, the ones who you can't stand to be around because they suck the life out of you, they gossip, they lie, they are downers, the ones we try to avoid but feel bad because they are our "friends". Clean them out, get rid of them. You don't need that. If they don't benefit you, help you grow, encourage you, or make you feel loved, then you need them out of your life. It may be hard but it will better you and possibly them in the end.
If you are that friend, JUST STOP. No one likes you. You can't just take, talk about people, and then get offended when you are avoided. Take a look at yourself. We should never stop improving! We are here to grow, to help others grow, and to learn from eachother...I mean, other stuff too, but you get my point. Examine yourself and those around you. Life is too short to have pretend relationships. 

Happy Spring cleaning! Stay weird. Stay classy. 

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Little changes, big difference.

"If you do what you've always done you will get what you've always gotten."
-Anthony Robbins

Simple words, difficult concept.

If you aren't happy with your life, it all comes down to the decisions you have made for yourself. If you want to be a Lawyer then you go to law school, if you want to travel then you save up and make it a priority.
The decisions are yours to make so if you are not happy with your results then you are doing something to contribute.
Happiness comes from within, you have to make the choice to be happy. No, this doesn't mean we control EVERYTHING in our lives, but the majority of it we do. Want something different? Try something you've never tried before. You are the only one standing in your way.

Here's  a few little things to make your day a little more awesome:

1. Wake up with purpose. The moment you open your eyes, say something that sets the mood, "Today is going to be amazing!" "I will succeed and be accomplished!" "Something great will come my way today." It might be a little cheesy or make you feel silly but we all need that.

2. Center yourself first thing. Read a scripture verse, say a little prayer, put on your favorite happy song, something that lifts your spirit and brings a smile.

3. Down a glass of water. This gets everything moving and circulating and will help you focus and concentrate.

4. Put on a motivational video while having breakfast. Les Brown always puts me in a positive mindset.

5. See the little things. When you walk out the door, admire the sunrise for a moment, enjoy that first sip of coffee, take a deep breath, notice soemthing beautiful around you! Even snap a picture if it helps, or write it down.

6. Have a gratitude journal. At the end of your day write down anything and everything you can think of that you are thankful for, a good memory, something that made you laugh. Gratitude is a beautiful thing and helps you see that you are a part of something greater than yourself.

7. Sometimes we have bad days, things don't go the way you planned, the dog got into the trash, the baby won't stop crying. It's OK to start over. Take a little nap, take a bath, or just sit down, refocus, pray, do what you have to do to make it better. Take care of you.

Little changes make a big difference. Have an incredible year. Be excellent.

Monday, December 29, 2014

Farewell to 2014

As this year comes to an end, we must look back on it and see what we learned. Maybe 2014 was the best year of your life, maybe it was the worst. WE ARE LEAVING IT BEHIND. We learned, we grew, we stand taller, we move forward.

2015 is around the corner and it's time to decide what kind of year you want it to be. I don't want 2015 to be a good year. I don't want it to be a great year, 2015 WILL BE AN EXCELLENT year. Give all you have, love fiercely, pursue your dreams and passions, center yourself, and be excellent. A new year is a new opportunity. 2015 doesn't start January 1st, it starts right now. Take this chance, this open door, and walk through it like you own it.

Have an incredible day and an excellent new year. Welcome to a new beginning.  Break free.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

It's not always "Giving up"

Sometimes we start something becuase we think we should, or because we want that, or because we think it is our passion. People change, and sometimes our passions change. Just because you quit something you started doesn't mean you are giving up. It doesn't mean you are a quitter, sometimes you just choose something different, you decide it's not what's best for you anymore. Whether it is a relationship, a toxic friendship, school, a job, moving away. Whatever you do, do what is right for you. Not what others think, don't keep at it because you don't want to be seen as "The one who gave up." That doesn't matter, what really matters is what you think of yourself and if you are where YOU want to be.

Moving on from something bad (unhealthy for you) is always a good thing. We MUST move forward. We MUST keep trying. And sometimes that means letting go.
Trust your journey. No one needs to know why you are doing what you are doing. You are here to find your purpose.  Don't get stuck. Don't be afraid. Let go and trust God. There is a plan and a reason for the things you are going through.

Take a deep breath, count your blessings, walk on. 

Monday, October 20, 2014

Create your own reality.

You are in control of your life. You create your reality. Stop letting others control how you feel, how you handle situations, how you live. The things you focus on is what you are attracting.
If you don't like your results, then change your mindset. There is so much power in believing in yourself and practicing inspiring yourself.

Be free, be thankful. Being thankful can change EVERYTHING. Instead of being distressed over a situation, look at how much worse it could've been. See the light in every aspect of darkness. 

If you are unhealthy- Change it. Eat right, exercise. 

If you are unhappy- Change it. Find what makes you happy and DO IT.

If you are uninspired- Change it. Get inspired. 

It's so simple, CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY. The things that we plant in our minds is what grows in our life. Grow good things. Be grateful for all you have, if you don't have it, be grateful that you have time to work towards it. 

Everyday is a gift. Stop cheating yourself. Become your greatest inspiration.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

A sense of purpose

 I feel that all of us women growing up were taught that our importance comes from our "boyfriends" or "Our man."

We put too much of our value in having a boyfriend. The point is, we don't need a man to show that we are successful or valuable. We are strong, beautiful, ambitious, smart women and we don't need a man to take care of us.
When you find the right person, yes, it is their job to take care of you, and you him. That doesn't mean that you can't take care of yourself. God made us incredibly strong and powerful. That's something to be proud of.

We need to stop looking to men, or anyone for our value. Our value is within us. The person God made us. And we are pretty awesome.

Our sense of purpose comes from what we believe we can accomplish.

Just remember that you are strong, worthy, powerful, and you can do anything if you put your mind to it. If you want something then go out and get it for yourself.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Inspiring yourself in 2014

So many times in the past I've looked to others to motivate and inspire me. While there are so many people that inspire me, I recently realized the true inspiration comes from within.

My New Years Resolution (one of oh so many) is to inspire myself. You make things happen, you do so much, look up to yourself and find inspiration in the person you are and the person you are becoming. 
It's easy to get caught up in the world, going nowhere fast, but if we slow down, think about what is really important and capture every moment in the moment, it all seems much simpler. I find inspiration in myself, nature, the miracles I see, and this year I'm determined to keep it simple and inspire myself every day!

I hope you do too! Happy New Year! 

"What the new year brings to you depends greatly on what you bring to this new year."
~Vern McLellan